Have you ever wondered how a plate is made? Welp I hadn’t
either…until my food wasn’t tasting right or working for me anymore!
I’ve spent the last few years struggling with ups and downs.
Filling the gaps with stupid amounts of alcohol. Burning through relationships
and to put it gently, leaving bad tastes in everyone’s mouths. After a lot of
thinking, a lot of searching, and a metric-butt ton of mental damage on all
sides, I finally learned what it is that I needed in order to have a truly
When I say that my food stopped tasting right or stopped
working for me, I mean that figuratively and literally. I went through a death
of a partner and never truly took the correct path to healing. I’m STILL not
sure that I understand what or where that path is, but I do know that I
bypassed it all and did everything incorrectly! Let me explain…
Let’s go back to the taste of my food. When I stopped eating
for pleasure and to sustain life, and simply ate because I was funneling beer
and whiskey into my gob, and needed to keep from hurling everywhere, I realized
that eating was simply another tool to help sustain the fun-wagon. I started to
think about the weight gain, the displeasure after the “fun” that I was doing
to bury the blah-ness that I was living with, and most importantly…the cloud or
haze that I was living with for a day or two at a time until I could regain
true focus. All these things were just taking a toll on me. I eventually began
to wonder if what I was doing was the wrong way to fix everything. I finally
realized that I didn’t need to be fixed. I reconciled the idea of being a
broken human, allowing myself to be vulnerable. Whether that meant to me or to
others, it didn’t matter anymore. I’m no superman and never will be. I’m fine
So, I began to look at things a bit differently. I started
with a simple thought. I know that the food on my plate is not helping me get
better. So what will? MAYBE I should be thinking about the plate itself! Duh!
That is what I have been doing for a while now. At first, secretly while
continuing to exist as usual. Then gradually letting more and more of it out.
Gradually relaxing into my own way; slowing down so I could grab the handle of
the passing bus of awesomeness. So here is what I mean, and it applies to us
all. Hopefully this will get you all thinking and if you need help, I am here
to offer it!
My plate is made from six very important things, or
HOME – Home Environment and Home Cooking
RELATIONSHIPS – Relationships and Social Life
SPIRITUALITY – Spirituality and Joy
HEALTH – Health and Physical Activity
CAREER – Career and Education
CREATIVITY – Creativity and Finances
I learned that these things need to be balanced or “made” in
such a way that allows me to be “The Best Me” that I can be. Over the next six
weeks I’ll get more into detail about how this balance takes place and more
importantly, how you can get a jumpstart on making it happen for you.